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Bisexual + Polyamorous by different-strokes Bisexual + Polyamorous by different-strokes
And damned proud. :aww:

Based off a joke found in Easton's novel The Ethical Slut.
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Ouran-AngelKit222 Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Same here!
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NedDSweepS Featured By Owner Sep 13, 2011
You are a bi-slut

You are carrying STD like 90% of all bi-sluts men and women

You are fucking stupid.

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brookevxz Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2010
haha : itīs fantastic
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DevilsLittleSister Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2008
Bi and Polyamorouse...omg I think I love you <3 lol
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lovelyhikari12 Featured By Owner Oct 16, 2008
Wait. Does that just mean multiple loves? That sound...bad? IDK, I'm confused.
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lifewithneko Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2008
Now that's funny!
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AlkalinePrincess Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2006   Interface Designer
isn't it spelt 'polygamory'?
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different-strokes Featured By Owner Mar 3, 2006
No, you're thinking of "polygamy." Polyamory is a totally separate conceptual entity.
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AlkalinePrincess Featured By Owner Mar 3, 2006   Interface Designer
So.. whats the actual efinition of polyamory then?

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different-strokes Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2006
Eh, it'll be easier to point to the differences between polygamy and polyamory, simply because the latter doesn't really have a set definition other than "many loves," which is ridiculously open to interpretation at times:

1) Religious Based

Polygamy, while technically meaning "Many Spouses" has a very traditional historical connection to certain religious followings. In the US, the most common is fundamental Mormonism. In the case of Mormonism, especially in these fundamental sects, it's an expectation to reach spiritual gain in the afterlife for a man to have at least 3 wives in the physical realm. It's also referred to as Celestial Marriage. And it could also be technically called Polygyny (or multiple-women). Despite its technical meaning, Polygamy has gained a societal description to refer to group marriages with dominant male and multiple wives [like harems]. I could go on and on about the history behind this and the reasons... and it's quite fascinating from a sociological position. But I won't bore you with it... google "polygamy" and "mormon" and you'll find plenty. But keep in mind, polygamy is strongly tied to religious expectations.

Polyamory itself has no religious connections. Sure, the people who practice it may come from various religious backgrounds, but the pursuit of multiple relationships has no specific spiritual basis or goal. People practice it for their own reasons - which may widely vary. It's all personal choice (or should be, in my opinion). But LOVE is usually a strong reason for polyamory... and the freedom to love and pursue relationships with as many people as you want. Not for a love of a god figure, or for entry into special status in the afterlife.

2) Male dominated vs. egalitarian

In traditional polygamy, it is extremely male dominated. While "Many Spouses" is non-gender specific, the term polygamy most often refers to a Male dominated relationship with multiple submissive females (and not in a BDSM sense). Oftentimes, the women have little say in when other wives are brought into the family, and the connections between the wives vary from not knowing each other to co-habitating and raising families together. One extreme is the Kingston family shown on the documentary, where the women are forced into marriage by age 16 (usually to an uncle or such), and expected to produce a child every year. Each wife usually has their own house, and raises the kids on her own. But that's an extreme. In the "normal" Mormon polygamist family - there's a little more choice on the part of the women coming into the family, and the existing wives having some say in the new bride. But it's still very male-dominated. None of the women are allowed other partners. And the male makes most decisions.

Polyamory can be described as egalitarian. Sure, a polyamorous household may be one man and multiple females - but it's by the choice of each involved, not because of some spiritual expectation. And the man is rarely dominant in these situations. In polyamory, women and men have equal status and choice in the matter of relationships. Polyamory celebrates individuality and choice. It's not uncommon at all for a woman to have multiple boyfriends (and girlfriends), for a guy to have boyfriends and girlfriends, etc. For a couple to date another couple, etc. Sure, when you combine BDSM with Polyamory, you may get a dominate figure with multiple submissives... but this is far from the "norm" in the polyamory I've seen. And that dominant figure can just as easily be a female as it can a male.

3) Multiple Spouses vs Multiple Loves

Polygamy is definitely about plural marriage, after all, the term does mean Multiple Spouses. If you take out the historical and religious connotations - this would be the biggest difference between polyamory and polygamy. Polygamist do not date just to date... they bring in candidates for marriage. And sometimes, love of the actual person is a component of the marriage... but it's certainly not the purpose.

In polyamory, marriage is rarely the goal. Sure, you'll find groups that called themselves a group marriage. And while they could technically use the term "polygamy" to describe their lifestyle... few do, for the connotations described above. (Most closed group marriages actually use the word "polyfidelity" to describe themselves.) And you'll even find group marriages in polyamory that are not closed - the individuals still can date others, even without the intent of bringing in new partners into the marriage.

Polyamory simply means "Many Loves". It does not imply that people are looking to marry multiple people. Those loves may be explored in a variety of relationship styles - from dating, to living together, to raising kids together. But there is no "ideal" of marriage in polyamory.


That's about it, in a nutshell.
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AlkalinePrincess Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2006   Interface Designer
oh, hmm, you learn something new every day :)
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Kuwaizair Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2006
I wish I could be like that, how do I change myself? people say that "this is the better way to be", not mean, biased and what not...to be bisexual and wanting to have 10 lovers and several hump buddies under their fingers for when they need them.

but I think I might be a sappy, single guy heterosexal who'll beat somone up if the hurt my guy.
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different-strokes Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2006
:shrug: I don't know about making yourself bisexual, but learning to be polyamorous relies mostly on overcoming your own jealousy issues, which you can learn how to do. If you're serious about doing it, I recommend checking out xeromag's "Polyamory? Like What, Two Girlfriends?" site and then grab a couple books on the subject -- Dossie Easton's The Ethical Slut is one of my personal favourites.

Good luck.
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Kuwaizair Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2006
I read the FAQ....and um oh so everyone always has more than one? or is this just "one guy two girls" or is it "one guy two girls and a guy and a girl for his girls"?

its jsut there are times like 'this" that make me feel 'horrable" for being myself "Omg u so closed minded and hardassed...u suldn't do that there are other options" or the other "OMg u dun need to do as socioty says...u dun need to love soone to have sex with them...its just sex, you live only once so have fun"

yeh ok..I'll go and bop everone I see.

but no I'm just moody I have no boyfriends...though wonder if having a cyber and a real life one is wise...
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different-strokes Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2006
:shrug: There's no "right" way to be poly. It can be one guy with two girls, one girl with two guys, one guy with two girls both of whom have another boy and one of whom has another girl ... the possibilities are really quite endless. You just need to do what works for you and yours.

And, by the way, there's nothing "wrong" with you if what works happens to be monogamy. :)
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Kuwaizair Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2006
nothing works with me...theres nothign I offer to guys. you go out and pick the hot ones from the crowd.

but those other people...it was really confussing. I don't belive anyone could love so dispersed.
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Secrets-Of-Paranoia Featured By Owner Dec 7, 2010  Student Traditional Artist
People telling you not to follow what you want are stupid. I'm bi and poly as well, but I would never tell someone to be that way.

There is no right or wrong. If you want a boyfriend in a sweet hetero relationship, by ALL means, do what makes you happy, not what some jackass tells you to do.

If people judge your relationships because they aren't weird enough, then they have a lot of growing up to do.
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Kuwaizair Featured By Owner Dec 8, 2010
yeh, i think it was only one. who tried to make me feel bad.

uh though i see the stamp. is it good or not good to flaunt being bi and poly? considering the sterotype is "oh, so and so is bisexual? that means they want to sleep/date/what ever with everyone"
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Secrets-Of-Paranoia Featured By Owner Dec 8, 2010  Student Traditional Artist
Well, that stereotype may exist but that doesn't mean we should all pretend to be something we're not. It all depends on the person and what they are comfortable being perceieved as.

Like me, personally; I am a promiscuous bastard and I know it; I have no problem with people knowing it. But some people don't want their business all over the place, and none of their friends really know.

But yeah, there is no sexuality that is 'right' or better than others. There is one that is right for me; That's this one. But there is one that's right for YOU, and it might be completely different.
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Invisable-Invasion Featured By Owner Dec 24, 2005  Student
I only just read that poly page, and I just realised that the name for what I have... Thank you! I've been wanting to get my finger on it for a while. Great to know that we're not alone!
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different-strokes Featured By Owner Dec 26, 2005
You're welcome :)
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ScullyNess Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2005
haha, that's great. Really good humor. Would be a great peice for a coffecup if I had the money to order one. :) hehe :giggle:
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