I hate heteronormativity.
I especially hate it because it preaches the penultimate value of The One, to such a mad extent that all other relationships are considered inferior and unworthy of continued investment post-realisation that This Person Is Not The One.
What's so special about The One that Everyone Else must come second? What's so great about The One that friends and family -- people you've had in your life for far longer and on much deeper levels of intimacy -- must fade into the background?
The One doesn't even exist! It is a FANTASY!
And you're just going to throw away every other good-great-absafuckinglutely wonderful relationship in your life in pursuit of this fictional character?
Yes, this is personal, yes, this is experiential. But I'm pretty sure it's universal.
And I want to know WHY it happens. What is the POINT in perpetuating this myth of The One? What is the point in, as a society, encouraging people to only value relationships they'll never have but are welcome to fruitlessly pursue? Why why WHY?
And why aren't there more support groups for people who fall by the wayside? For the people who were there for you growing up, falling down, in and out and above and beyond your years, who love you, who you no longer care about because after all's said and done, she isn't The One?
It just annoys the fuck out of me that anybody can buy into this shit. It especially annoys me when they're people I love who should KNOW BETTER, and who DO know better, but continue to relentlessly stalk this ridiculous fantasy. Ten years, ten fun-filled fantastic years, and maybe six months of real hardship and soul-searching -- and now, just because I'm not The One, I'm not even worth the time of day? What the hell is that? I've shared more of your soul than anybody, and you've got more than bits and pieces of mine, and none of that MATTERS because I'm not The One?
It's the stupidest fucking ploy on the planet, designed to wreck otherwise great relationships with the fallacious notion that there is Someone Out There who is 100% compatible with our every wish/want/desire/need and, moreover, that you will not find The One unless you forsake everything else -- and everyone else -- you already have.
Well fuck you.
And fuck The One.